These days kids don’t know how lucky they are to have their parents be together still. I can remember it like it was yesterday. 4 years ago my parents got in a divorce. I was 10 and I knew it had to happen sooner or later even though I didn’t want it to. You could tell our family of 2 loving parents and 4 kids was going to fall apart. Days of coming home to happy and welcoming parents turned into coming home to stressed and forced smiles. The dinner table that used to stir with laughter and family memories turned into dead dark silence. Slowly my parents started talking to each other less and yelling at each other more. Eventually one parent would try to not be at the house while the other parent was. Me, being only 10 watched as the two people who onced love each other fall apart right in front of her eyes.
Eventually my mom told me that they were not getting along. With the slightest hope I wished that the “not getting along” phase was only temporary. Later on I realized that the hope I once had was disappearing. I noticed no matter how hard I tried to help with their situation, it wasn’t going to change how they felt about each other anymore. Later my mom moved out, and it was different not coming home to my mom's warm hugs anymore. Living with my dad was harder because he didn’t understand me as well as my mom had. It was even more difficult when my younger siblings had asked me questions like “why do mom and dad not live together anymore?”, or “why don’t they smile or hug when they see eachother anymore?” They were too young to understand and to this day they have gotten used to my parents being divorced they don’t remember what it was like when they were happy together. But I do, and sometimes I miss those days.
It is hard sometimes seeing other people come into your life taking your mom’s or dad’s role on telling you what to do, or even living with you as your mom/dads partner. There’s always going to be a hint of dislike or jealousy for them because they are happier than your mom and dad ever were together. At first it is extremely difficult to handle your new step mom/dad but eventually you get used to it. Family outings are never the same anymore because both of your parents aren’t with each other. So in a way you're not really a whole family without them weather they are divorced or not.
There are a few little good outcomes to having divorced parents. For example, my mom was an alcoholic when my parents were together and when she moved out she realized that if she wanted any custody of us she had to limit or quit drinking. She quit drinking completely. Another good outcome is that you get to know your parents a little more because spending time with just one lets you get to know them more than before.
Yes, kids who still have parents together are extremely lucky because if I could have the chance to have the way my parents were before I would take it in a heartbeat. That is something for sure that I know.
Eventually my mom told me that they were not getting along. With the slightest hope I wished that the “not getting along” phase was only temporary. Later on I realized that the hope I once had was disappearing. I noticed no matter how hard I tried to help with their situation, it wasn’t going to change how they felt about each other anymore. Later my mom moved out, and it was different not coming home to my mom's warm hugs anymore. Living with my dad was harder because he didn’t understand me as well as my mom had. It was even more difficult when my younger siblings had asked me questions like “why do mom and dad not live together anymore?”, or “why don’t they smile or hug when they see eachother anymore?” They were too young to understand and to this day they have gotten used to my parents being divorced they don’t remember what it was like when they were happy together. But I do, and sometimes I miss those days.
It is hard sometimes seeing other people come into your life taking your mom’s or dad’s role on telling you what to do, or even living with you as your mom/dads partner. There’s always going to be a hint of dislike or jealousy for them because they are happier than your mom and dad ever were together. At first it is extremely difficult to handle your new step mom/dad but eventually you get used to it. Family outings are never the same anymore because both of your parents aren’t with each other. So in a way you're not really a whole family without them weather they are divorced or not.
There are a few little good outcomes to having divorced parents. For example, my mom was an alcoholic when my parents were together and when she moved out she realized that if she wanted any custody of us she had to limit or quit drinking. She quit drinking completely. Another good outcome is that you get to know your parents a little more because spending time with just one lets you get to know them more than before.
Yes, kids who still have parents together are extremely lucky because if I could have the chance to have the way my parents were before I would take it in a heartbeat. That is something for sure that I know.